Erratic Emotions

Emotions are a natural part of our human makeup.  People, particularly women, can experience a variety of emotions in one day.  From elation to depression, our emotions can take us on a wild roller coaster ride through life if we do not find ways to manage them.

Types of Emotions

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Although human beings can experience a wide variety of feelings, some of the most basic types of emotions are happiness, sadness, pride, fear, disgust, anger, surprise, excitement, shame, and embarrassment.  The Bible even speaks of people’s various feelings.  Scripture never promotes suppressing emotions and refusing to deal with them, but we must learn to control them with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Happiness is seen as a positive emotion, and there is certainly nothing wrong with being happy.  The problem comes when I expect other people to do for me what only God can do.  What I am about to state is certainly not popular, but the Lord never promised that we would always be happy.  He did, however, promise that we could have joy.

What is the difference between joy and happiness?  Although the two words are used interchangeably, happiness often depends upon circumstances while joy goes much deeper.  The joy we experience from God is a part of the fruit of the Spirit.  In other words, joy is the result of having the Holy Spirit (given to us at salvation).  Happiness can only take me so far, but joy gets me through all circumstances, good or bad.

Fear and anger are considered to be negative emotions.  A healthy fear, such as being afraid to walk out in front of a moving vehicle, is not negative.  It is needful, but a terrifying fear, such as always fearing the future, is not of God.  In fact, His word teaches us to overcome such fears (2 Timothy 1:7, 1 John 4:18).  Anger is not always negative. There are times when we need to have anger in order to act; however, anger that is not dealt with properly is dangerous and leads to other sins.  Anger is another emotion that the Bible teaches us to control (James 1:20, Ephesians 4:26-27, and Proverbs 29:11)

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Emotions Out of Control

I must admit that I have days when I am easily angered, or, my feelings are hurt very easily.  Sometimes, there can be physical explanations such as lack of sleep or hormonal imbalance.  Other times, out-of-control emotions can be a symptom of something that is lacking spiritually.

Earlier, I stated that people often expect others in their lives to make them happy.  I have made the mistake of placing responsibility for my emotional well-being in the hands of my husband, children, friends, or family.  I am certainly not saying that the people in my life do not want me to be happy, but I am saying that it is not their responsibility to manage my emotions.  The responsibility is mine, and the only way I can assume it is to go to God for emotional healing when my feelings seem to be wreaking havoc.

Once you let others off the hook for your emotional stability, and you give this to the Lord, you will begin to see more balanced emotions displayed.  The things that used to irritate you or hurt your feelings will not have as much power over you.

Godly Response

When negative emotions arise, as they often do, you should not suppress them; however, you should not give full vent to them either.  First, go to the Lord in prayer about them.  He is neither surprised nor perplexed by your emotions. Next, find a trusted friend with which to speak.  Ask other believers for prayer.

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Most of all, you need to spend time with God on a daily basis, both in prayer and in His word.  I realize I sound bossy, but, trust me, I have had loads of experience in the emotional realm.  Unfortunately, I have given full vent to my emotions which have never brought about good results.  Thankfully, there are also times I take them to God and ask for His intervention.  The latter choice is always best.

As I mentioned earlier, happiness is a wonderful emotion, but if I believe I must always be on an emotional high, I will eventually bottom out to depression.  Emotions must be stabilized and balanced so as to avoid either extreme on the pendulum swing.  I am not suggesting that managing emotions is an easy feat.  I know better, but I also know that nothing is impossible with God.  He gives us grace for all areas of our lives, including our feelings.

Coping with Stress

We all know that life can be stressful.  Some times are worse than others. Sometimes, everything seems to come at us all at once.  There are some steps we can take to reduce the stress in our lives, yet, there are some stressful situations that we might not be able to escape right away.  Whatever your situation, God has promised to never leave you nor forsake you.

When to Reduce Stress

cropped-your-word-is-life-11.pngThere are just some behaviors and treatment we receive from other people that we simply do not need to put up with.  For example, if you are in a relationship with someone who is either physically or verbally abusive, it is time to make some changes.  To continue to tolerate the treatment you are receiving in that situation is detrimental to your well-being. If you are married to someone who is abusive, seek help through a trusted pastor or other spiritually mature Christian.

If your job is too much for you, then, it is time to decide what you will deal with and what you will not tolerate.  Will ignoring the situation help?  Sometimes, it does.  There are people who get a thrill out of bothering others.  Not allowing them to know they have succeeded is just the response they need.  Other times, it is necessary to confront.  How will you know?  You must seek God in prayer concerning the situation.  He will lead you by peace.

When You Just Need to Cope

There will be some stressful situations in which you must cope.  In other words, there might be a reason that God will not allow you to leave this situation.  It could be a job, a bad marriage, or a church.  When the Holy Spirit leads you to remain in a stressful situation, God is going to bring good out of it.  He is going to use you in this situation.  He will get glory from it in some way.

When coping is the case, you must really draw near to God, or, you will not stand strong in the situation.  You will need God’s grace moment by moment.  Get into the Word of God and find scriptures that apply to your situation.  Quote them out loud. Get before the Lord in prayer. He will give you what you need for the situation, and He will allow you to come out in victory rather than defeat.

His grace is sufficientWe all face situations that we do not like, and we all go through adverse circumstances.  What we must remember is that we do not have to allow those things to destroy us.  We can choose to allow the Lord to refine us and make us better Christians from these situations.

 

What about you?  Are you in a stressful situation from which you should flee?  If so, go in the name of Jesus.  Are you in a stressful situation in which God has told you to stay?  If so, trust Him in this situation, He will bring you through, and you will not be destroyed.